RE: "Do you know what you're going to get?"

["LaRee Brown" <mommytotwins2003 yahoo com>]

LOL at the "puppies" comment. When I was born & people asked Dad "what
did Joan have?" his response was "A baby!!" (with a big proud
smile/surprised look LOL).

Along the same lines, did anyone else get as tired as I did of hearing
"if you're lucky, you'll get one of each, then your family will be
complete" while pg w/ twins?!?! It made me SO MAD!!! Both because of the
assumption that a "complete" family consists of 2 kids (I had one woman
assume that I would want to get a tubal when the twins were born since
I'd have 2 kids! What?!?!)& the assumption that a "complete" family
consists of one of each gender. Grrrrrrr.

LaRee & the twins
http://pages.ivillage.com/lareebrown/


-----Original Message-----
From: nonsexist-parenting-bounces cosmos phy tufts edu
[mailto:nonsexist-parenting-bounces cosmos phy tufts edu] On Behalf Of
Bell, Beth (M. Elizabeth)
Sent: Tuesday, January 20, 2004 8:42 AM
To: 'nonsexist-parenting cosmos phy tufts edu'
Subject: RE: "Do you know what you're going to get?"

I'm guilty of this too.  I wept with joy when I found out that my first
baby
would be a girl.  With my second pregnancy, I felt like I was carrying a
boy, but I was wrong--it turned out to be two boys! Both pregnancies
required/resulted in a lot of personal growth for me, as I'm a rape
survivor.

My initial response to people's query--what are you having?  Was
"puppies!".
Then I would say the US suggested a specific gender, but it could be in
error. A little bit of humor put the gender thing in perspective.

BETH

  

-----Original Message-----
From: Ken Olum [mailto:kdo cosmos phy tufts edu]
Sent: Monday, January 19, 2004 4:28 PM
To: nonsexist-parenting cosmos phy tufts edu
Subject: "Do you know what you're going to get?"


I think a lot of the problem is the apparently widely held belief that
the most important thing about a person is their sex.  Perhaps the
strongest example of this phenomenon is that when you're pregnant
people ask you "Do you know what you're going to get?"  You are
supposed to say something about sexes, but I always said something
like "healthy babies, I hope".  In retrospect, perhaps the best answer
would be "Yes, people".

                        Ken

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