RE: [apmultiples] another rant from Valerie/dresses

["Dr. Wendi Hadd" <drwendi hotmail com>]

OUr attitude toward dresses is different than most I think.  Sophie loves 
dresses and Hannah used to. They were frequently given very fancy dresses 
by 
family members and we did not save them for "best".  I let them wear them 
whenever they want which means they are frequently seen in the park 
playing 
in a fancy party dress in the sandbox.  After all, its just clothes 
really.  
Sam and then Jake used to ask where their dresses were and I was hesitant 
to 
say boys don't have dresses so I would just say oh, you don't have any.  
Sometimes they would wear their sister's dresses around the house for 
playing but they learned young not to go outside in them (not from me!)

Wendi


>From: "Nancy Toby" <nancytoby comcast net>
>Reply-To: apmultiples yahoogroups com
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>Subject: RE: [apmultiples] another rant from Valerie
>Date: Sun, 11 Jan 2004 09:05:43 -0500
>
>I guess the kids will always be affected to some degree by what "outside"
>people do.
>
>
>
>I've never bought dresses for my girls - seemed like nothing but a 
>nuisance
>to me! But that's what people seem to want to gift to them. I guess it's
>good to have a few for the portrait studio, because I don't think they'll
>get much wear out of them otherwise! It never seemed very practical to me 
>to
>have clothes that they had to change out of for play - play is their
>full-time job now! Another gift they got was a huge collection of hair 
>bows
>and hair clips. I guess I can save them for "dress-up" play some day - I
>don't see us ever bothering with them for daily wear! Both my girls have a
>lot of hair and definitely look like girls, they've never been mistaken 
>for
>boys. (As an aside, I've heard that is one of the things that bothers
>parents in the NICU most - when someone speaks of their child in the wrong
>gender. I guess that would seem like a lack of familiarity and concern 
>with
>the child, but otherwise seems like one of the least important things to 
>me
>at that stage.)
>
>
>
>I also tend to buy them clothes in bright colors rather than pastels,
>because they don't "show the dirt" as much, and for some unknown reason
>these seem to have more traditionally masculine themes - like the pink
>version of one outfit has a butterfly on it, and the navy blue version 
>has 
>a
>truck and a (male-appearing) farmer.
>
>
>
>The first more expensive clothing I bought for each of them (on sale at
>Land's End) was a pair of overalls each. Along with their first 
>sweatshirts,
>which have on the front "A for Aviation" and an airplane. Their father is 
>a
>private pilot and always talks about flying copilot in the right seat with
>them one day. :-)
>
>
>
>I have a feeling we'll be doing most of our clothes-shopping online (like
>Mommy does) rather than in the "boys section" or "girls section" of the
>store anyway.
>
>
>
>~~~~~~~
>
>Nancy Toby, Arlington, Virginia * nancytoby comcast net
>
>Mom to Catherine and Elisabeth (6/1/03) and Anna (5/9/03-11/21/03)
>
>   _____
>
>
>
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