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Re: [apmultiples] another rant from Valerie

Those of you with older kids- how do you feel about the belief I have heard
many say, in that girls are "easier to potty train"
I take it that girls may be READY sooner... and I did see this when I taught
Toddlers....but wonder how it is with multiples in the same house....

-Amy

----- Original Message -----
From: "Dr. Wendi Hadd" <drwendi hotmail com>
To: <apmultiples yahoogroups com>
Sent: Saturday, January 10, 2004 6:27 PM
Subject: RE: [apmultiples] another rant from Valerie


> I am a sociologist and one of the areas I teach is gender socialization.
> The views of my students never fail to amaze (and irritate) me.  They are
so
> convinced that there are innate differences and will point to the
flimsiest
> research data to support their arguments completely overlooking all the
> areas  in which boys and girls overlap.
>
> I am also continually bombarded with people attributing my own children's
> characteristics and personality to their gender.  Whenever someone says,
oh
> boys are this or girls are that I always contradict them and state no,
> that's just so and so's personality. My first daughter goes against a lot
of
> the gender stereotypes in that she was slow to talk and she is the only
one
> of my six children to have learning difficulties.
>
> I would find this kind of discussion very interesting.
>
> Wendi
> mom to 6 from 9 months to 17 years
> >From: Valerie White <valerie forevermail com>
> >Reply-To: apmultiples yahoogroups com
> >To: apmultiples yahoogroups com
> >Subject: [apmultiples] another rant from Valerie
> >Date: Sat, 10 Jan 2004 06:18:16 -0500
> >
> >My understanding is that there is essentially no credible research to
show
> >INNATE differences between baby boys and girls (other than what's in
their
> >diapers!), but that adults react to babies differently based on their
> >perceived gender--one story I heard from a linguistics professor told of
> >the strong baby girl who was pulling herself up on her daddy's fingers at
> >the doctor's office and a passing woman said, "Oh, what a strong boy you
> >are!"  When Daddy said, "She's a girl," the woman said, "Isn't it nice of
> >Daddy to pull you up like that!"  In other words, as soon as she knew the
> >baby was a girl she stripped her of her agency.  Other research has shown
> >that parents are more protective of baby girls, respond more
> >sympathetically to their cries when they get hurt exploring, keep them
> >closer to hand . . .  It is something we need to be aware of  and try to
> >compensate for in order to make vigorous, assertive, self-actualizing,
> >authentic girls!!  (And sensitive, caring, introspective boys!)
> >
> >In actual fact, our girl twin, who was TWO pounds lighter at birth, is
WAY
> >more adventurous and physical than our boy twin . . . climbs everywhere,
> >runs everywhere, interacts with strangers, while he is intensely engaged
in
> >making block towers or looking at books.
> >
> >Go figger.
> >
> >Valerie
> >
>
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